For the next few months, we’ll be periodically posting wisdom from an incredibly helpful book: Choosing to Cheat: Who wins when family and work collide? by Andy Stanley. (Click here for the last post.) We highly encourage you to get a copy of this short and easy read for yourself, and follow along with us!
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The book is about finding a balance between work and family. If you ever wonder how you can be successful at work without sacrificing your relationships with those closest to you, then this book is for you (or someone close to you).
Quotations, summaries, and thoughts from Chapter 1:
- You probably have goals and dreams for your career. At the same time, your career isn’t the only area in which you have goals for your life. You have dreams for your family – for you and your spouse and your kids.
- As your career demands more of your time – time you know belongs to your to spouse and kids, there can seem to be no end to the frustration. There is always more to do than you could ever get done (at work and home).
- On the other side of the coin, maybe you are the spouse that holds down the homefront. As your spouse continues to pursue their career, you also feel tension, frustration, loneliness, and maybe anger. When your spouse comes home, they aren’t really there (as much as they may want to be).
- This is a tension we live with everyday. This is not a lesson we learn and put behind us. It is a principle we have to make a conscious decision to apply daily. Someone is going to feel cheated – someone is going to feel as if I am not giving them what they deserve or need.
- This not an issue of “Am I cheating?” The issue is always, “Where am I cheating?”
- When you consider the limited number of hours in a day, there’s no way you can reach your full potential in all of the areas of your life.
- There is just not enough time in your day to be all things to all people. You are going to have to cheat somewhere.
- Over time, our families learn that the only way to get our attention is to create a crisis.
- How does someone cheat at work without destroying their career? Can a homemaker cheat their to-do list without cheating their family?
Can’t wait to find out the rest, or want more details? (These summaries don’t do the book justice!) Then be sure to get a copy of the book. This could have significant impact on your relationships!
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