Choosing to cheat – part 3


For the next few months, we’ll be periodically posting wisdom from an incredibly helpful book: Choosing to Cheat: Who wins when family and work collide? by Andy Stanley. (Click here for the last post in this series.) We highly encourage you to get a copy of this short and easy read for yourself, and follow along with us!

The book is about finding a balance between work and family. If you ever wonder how you can be successful at work without sacrificing your relationships with those closest to you, then this book is for you (or someone close to you).

Quotations from Chapter 2:

  • The collision between work and family is inevitable.
  • Success or failure in either category will have a direct impact on your overall quality of life, your mental outlook, and your self-esteem.
  • Both work and family originate with the same source: God. He created them to peacefully coexist.
  • From the very beginning, God intended for man to work, before there was even a family to support. (Gen 2:15)
  • Whereas work is task-focused, the family is relationship-focused.
  • Family requires an entirely different set of tools and standards of evaluation. You do your job. You love your family. It is when we reverse the order that the tension escalates and the tug-of-war begins.
  • Work, whether in or out of the house, can become not only an occupation but also a preoccupation. The people who deserve your undivided attention aren’t attended to while the projects that could wait are.
  • Contentment is found neither in the marketplace nor the family alone. It is found when we align our priorities with His as it relates to both areas of responsibility.
  • Good intentions have never accomplished anything. If I run over you with my car, but it was my intention to swerve and miss you, you still have to go to the hospital.
  • In the world of relationships we live with the illusion that good intentions – the desire of our hearts – somehow heal the wounds we have created with our absence and misprioritization.
  • We may ask God to fill a gap that only we can fill (at home) while we scurry off to do a job that a thousand other people could do.
  • If we can’t expect God to cover for us in a way that protects our families from the residual effects of our misprioritization, then what are we to do?

Can’t wait to find out the rest, or want more details? (These summaries don’t do the book justice!) Then be sure to get a copy of the book. This could have significant impact on your relationships!


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