Periodically, we’ve been posting wisdom from an incredibly helpful book: Choosing to Cheat: Who wins when family and work collide? by Andy Stanley. (Click here for the last post in this series.) We highly encourage you to get a copy of this short and easy read for yourself, and follow along with us!
The book is about finding a balance between work and family. If you ever wonder how you can be successful at work without sacrificing your relationships with those closest to you, then this book is for you (or someone close to you).
Quotations from Chapter 4:
- Do you know what your family wants from you more than anything else? They want to feel like they are your priority.
- There’s a difference in our family being our priority, and them actually feeling like they are our priority.
- We may be quick to say we love our family. But do you love them with your heart AND your schedule? (They can’t see your heart.)
- Our family’s willingness to hold the rock for us is born out of their desire to please us. In pleasing us, they hope to gain what they value the most, our acceptance.
- When we cheat, we shuffle priorities. It sends the message: You’re important… but right now something else is more important.
- Actions speak louder than intentions. No one can see your heart.
- You have a dozen good reasons to justify shifting your priorities to meet the ever-changing demands at work. But in the economy of human emotions that distinction isn’t recognized.
- Wouldn’t it be great if our spouse and kids had acceptance meters to know exactly where we stand? You’ve got to slow down long enough to check the family vital signs.
Can’t wait to find out the rest, or want more details? (These summaries don’t do the book justice!) Then be sure to get a copy of the book. This could have significant impact on your relationships!