Periodically, we’ve been posting wisdom from an incredibly helpful book: Choosing to Cheat: Who wins when family and work collide? by Andy Stanley. (Click here for the last post in this series.) We highly encourage you to get a copy of this short and easy read!
If you ever wonder how you can be successful at work without sacrificing your relationships with those closest to you, then this book is for you (or someone close to you).
WARNING: The title of the current chapter is “A double-edged sword”. Without the context of the full chapter, these quotations may be difficult to hear. This may especially be the case if you haven’t been following along in this series.
Quotations from Chapter 5:
- Often, the spouse who cheats at home gets way too much support from the people they are cheating.
- Sometimes we may be afraid to put our foot down with our spouse because of fear of rejection. We take up the rock to avoid rejection. We may think we are being a loving, understanding spouse when in reality we’re simply facilitating our own failure as a spouse and parent.
- Husbands and wives are hesitant to put their foot down because they feel like they are betraying their commitment as a supportive spouse. Nothing could be further from the truth.
- To facilitate your spouse’s misprioritization is to add to your own dysfunction. All of us need a reality check every once in a while.
Again, this may have been very difficult to hear. To get the full context of these statements, be sure to grab a copy of the book.
This is a great quote from this chapter: “Your home environment defines what your children perceive as ‘normal.’ Create for them what you hope they will re-create when it is their turn.”
The remaining posts in the series will be about how to actually restore the family and work balance. Can’t wait to find out the rest, or want more details? Then be sure to get a copy of the book.