It’s Moving Day

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The Children and Families Ministry blog is moving to our new home at my.newcommunity.church! We will still provide great articles about marriage and parenting as well as info about Kidz Community, but at New Community’s new website my.newcommunity.church. The one place to get all the latest information and details about New Community Church.

Want to find out about the Sunday morning sermon series? Go to my.newcommunity.church.

What day is Student Ministry going to Winter Jam? Go to my.newcommunity.church.

Where can I find the preschool and elementary preview videos? Go to my.newcommunity.church.

What is the new Vision and Strategy that Rob and the elders talked about a few weeks ago? Go to my.newcommunity.church.

Where did Rob get his awesome red shoes? Well, that’s just something you’ll have to ask him yourself.

Come visit us at our new place and check it out. Just in case you forgot, it’s my.newcommunity.church.

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In November, we want to share with your Preschooler that God is the one we thank for everything. 

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This month your Elementary child will be challenged to take a “time out” to show gratitude to those who have helped them.

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3 One-Liners That Have Made a Huge Difference in our Marriage

Cute married couple Stock Photography When I ask people what it takes to have a great marriage, they mostly say one of two things: hard work and good communication. The problem with hard work is that most people work hard at work, and when they get home from work, they don’t want to work anymore. Plus, many people don’t know how to work on their marriage, or they think working on their marriage means good communication. The problem with good communication is that there is typically a spouse who likes to talk and a spouse who doesn’t. I’m not suggesting couples shouldn’t work on their marriage or strive for good communication; I’m just saying many couples don’t. So, what’s the answer? I think the answer is finding super simple applications that work at the speed of life. For instance, my wife and I have incorporated three one-liners into our marriage that have been nothing short of life altering.

#1 – “We have rich people problems.” I’m not sure this originated with Andy Stanley, but we first heard it from him in a Sunday morning message. When we catch ourselves feeling sorry for ourselves for things like not being able to afford to go to Disney World every year, or having a broken sprinkler system, or because we drive older cars, we say, “We have rich people problems.” It’s amazing how quickly that one phrase can bring us back to the reality of how fortunate we are financially. We may not be rich by Atlanta standards, but by the world’s standards, “We have rich people problems.”

#2 – “Do you want me to fix it or feel it?” I’m not sure where we got this one, but it has saved a thousand fights. Prior to this question, many of our fights went like this: Nancie would share with me an issue or problem she was having. I would tell her all the ways she could fix it. She would get frustrated and tell me all the reasons my solutions wouldn’t work. Somewhere along the way we learned that most women don’t want their husbands to fix their problems, they want them to feel their problems. Now, this makes zero sense to me, but to Nancie it makes perfect sense. So, now when she shares a problem, I simply ask her, “Do you want me to fix it or feel it?” 95 percent of the time she says, “Feel it.” Then I simply listen attentively. Works like a charm, every time!

#3 – “We know tragedy and this isn’t it.” I’ve experienced quite a bit of tragedy in my life. I will spare you the details but I have lost many family members suddenly and way before their time, one of which was my Mom when I was ten. So, when we get frustrated with a situation or things go wrong, we often say to the other, “We know tragedy and this isn’t it.” We are quickly and easily reminded of what and who really matters.

Now, I realize life is complicated and you need more than three one-liners in your marital toolbox, but often we make marriage way to complicated by creating our own drama. Having simple ways to get our marriages back on course is crucial. Give one of these three one-liners a try for two weeks and let us know what happens.

Do you have any one-liners that have helped your marriage?

From 2001–2010, Ted Lowe worked as the director of MarriedLife at North Point Community Church. His wife, Nancie, played a huge role in hosting and planning MarriedLife programs at North Point. It was during their time at North Point that they decided they not only wanted to help the married people at North Point, but married people at churches all over the world. So, in partnership with Orange and church leaders everywhere they are working fast and furiously to HELP CHURCHES HELP MARRIAGES. They have three children: Chapman (10), Judson (7), and Teddie (5), and live in Cumming, Georgia. You can follow Ted on Twitter and Facebook.